7 Things You Can Do If You Self-Harm
Self-injuries are very large or small actions, which are intended to hurt yourself. They usually manifest as small but numerous cuts on arms or legs (and even other parts of the body), but can also manifest as hitting, hair pulling, pinching, and any voluntary (sometimes unconscious) action that involves hurting yourself.
This behavior is very common in adolescents, but many adults practice it in multiple forms, and it can become so normalized that those who engage in it do not ask for help when they need it.
Remember, self-harm manifests in various forms, ranging from cutting the skin to hitting, hair pulling, pinching, and more. With that in mind, here are seven steps you can take during moments of self-harm:
1. Keep Yourself Safe
It might seem obvious, but for many, this can be a challenging step, as self-harm often happens impulsively. To manage this impulsivity, move away from any objects you might use to harm yourself. If you feel the urge to hit yourself or objects, try replacing these actions with safer alternatives like shouting, jumping, or running.
2. Breathe
Understanding that self-harm is driven by impulsivity, taking a pause during the crisis can help you regain control. Breathing exercises work well because conscious and mindful breathing redirects your focus. Alternatively, you can try drinking water or washing your face, both actions disrupt the chaos of self-harming impulses.
3. Let Your Emotions Out
Acknowledge that these actions against yourself are loaded with emotions, whether recognized or not. Taking a few minutes to vent, by talking, writing, or crying, can help release the tension behind the crisis.
4. Don’t Resist Crying
If you feel the urge to cry, let it happen. Don’t resist the tears; instead, allow them to flow. Crying can contribute significantly to emotional release.
5. Write
Once the crisis subsides, write down the most recurring emotions and thoughts you experienced. This will help you identify and confront the underlying causes of your self-harm. If it’s fear, resentment, anger, or frustration, name the emotion and acknowledge it.
6. Protect Yourself
The urge to self-harm may not disappear entirely, so take steps to care for yourself. Identify the triggers of your crises and avoid objects, situations, or even people that may contribute to them.
7. Seek Help
You don’t have to bear this burden alone. Don’t feel ashamed or guilty, it's okay to feel bad, but it’s not okay to harm yourself because of it. Reach out to someone you trust for support.
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